I know this is going to sound petty, and I'm going to sound selfish and mean and like a total, complete bitch but I don't care. I don't. It's my blog, and I don't have to be polite and well-mannered and PC here. If it bothers me, then it does. So there.
Juliana made me a necklace and a painting and a card in school, but only because they were class assignments. I treasure them, because she made them and worked hard on them. She must have said with pride "Happy Mother's Day Mommy! I love you so much!" about 9 dozen times, unsolicited. She was just so proud that I'm her Mommy and she took such pleasure in telling me how much she loved me and she THANKED me for being a good Mommy. Grace and Anneliese don't know what the day means, but they did give me plenty of hugs.
But Manny? He didn't even SAY "Happy Mother's Day" until I pointed it out to him that he didn't say it. And his excuse? "I was tired." WHAT? Not even a card, homemade or otherwise. His excuse? "I was too busy." He was too busy for the ENTIRE preceding month or 12? Whatever. He did pick up breakfast from Dunkin Donuts but only because I asked. Then later that night he says "Well I did have a gift idea in mind, it was a really cool idea." So I suppose in this case it really was just "the thought that counts."
He did NOTHING special for me. It was just another day. No "Thank you for taking care of the kids 24/7 while I work out of the house and hardly see you." No "Thanks for being a good mother to my children." No "You're a great mom and I love you." NOTHING. He didn't even make sure that he was the one watching the girls during dinner at my mother's house, so I got cold food and had to eat alone because everyone had finished since I was too busy with the girls to eat during dinner time. No pampering, no thank you's, no recognition, no help. Just another day where he expected me to handle everything. Just an excuse of being too busy and "an idea he had." He didn't even tell me what the idea was! Jerk.
I'm still angry and upset with him for not even acknowledging it yet making it a POINT to visit his mother and older sister for a special Mother's Day visit. Yes, that's right. Now, he used finances as an excuse not to get our mother's something, but he DID say Happy Mother's Day to my mother, my grandmother, his mother and his sisters. Unsolicited and with all the love he could muster. Yes, I'm serious.
So go ahead and tell me that I'm being selfish and petty, I can handle it. I know I'm not but I do know that some people just brush this holiday off and being created by the gift card companies to make a buck. I don't care. One more buck to them means someone thought of me and thought I was worthwhile enough to acknowledge.
ETA: I should mention here that my mom made sure "the girls" got me some pretty smelling lotion from Avon, Chamomile & Lavender scented. My Mom got me a cute hand bag set. I wasn't expecting ANYTHING from her, so it was a nice surprise. I love my Mom and not just because she buys me stuff. She thought of me, and thinks I'm a good mom. I learned from her.